An Open Letter to Our Son's Birth Mother

  I know you've found my blog. I know you've found out who we are. I know you have seen pictures of him and even posted them as your own. You probably have even seen we have moved out of state. I'm also sure you have formed opinions of us and even his life. I know you've seen he calls us mom and dad, and when he draws his "family," it's clear it's us.
   But one thing I hope you have seen is that Michael is happy. He has adjusted once again to a new home and lifestyle. He's made friends and has a large extended family. He's excited to finally have the stability he has now. I also want you to see that he is LOVED. We love and adore him.   However, I want you to know a piece of his heart will always be yours. Sometimes it's hard for me to admit that, but he loves you more than words can explain. He talks about you a lot and he remembers you. He's not forgotten how much you love him.
  He has a picture of you and his siblings that we openly let him have. He decides where they go. He loves to look at them. He even worries about you. When it storms, his first thought is that you're safe.
  One thing you probably do not know is, we love you too. There is a love in our hearts for you that is unexplainable. We never talk bad about you. We always hold you to a higher standard. We pray for you every night with him. We pray for your safety and for God's protection on your life.
  We pray for your protection because we want to meet you one day. We will be the first to drive Michael to see you when we feel  he is ready. It will be when he is much older, but you can rest to know when he is ready, you will see him. He is content and happy, and any contact now would confuse him and not be good.
  I also know you will see this blog. I'm writing this to you so you know where we stand. I also write this hoping you will respect where he is in his life. I ask for respect because we respect you. I know this is hard, but I ask for you to trust where the Lord has placed him. Trust that he is being taken care of and we make every decision for him in prayer.
  The truth we both have to accept is we share a son. We even share his heart. But one thing you have to accept is we don't share custody. When we swore to the state we would care for him, we meant it. This isn't an "open adoption." He is our son and we will do everything to ensure he is safe, loved, and cared for.   We will continue to pray and love you. We will continue to talk highly of you. We will continue to talk of the days in the future when he can see you again. But for now, please keep your distance, for the benefit of everyone.