I found out we were having a boy when I logged in to check the status of the lab work we had done. The lab work showed no positive markers for down syndrome or spinal bifida but also had a pop up box that said "Gender results: Do you wish to proceed?" I was at work looking at this pop up and could not help but press yes. There it was, the news we were having a boy. Thankfully it was time to get off at work, so I clocked out, printed the results, and sent Kyle a text that said "OMG I KNOW WHAT WE ARE HAVING!!!" I told him I was going to run by Publix and get something to surprise him with the gender.
When I got home, I met Kyle upstairs with a gift bag and a card. I handed him the card, which was in a in a pink envelop (on purpose) and he immediately knew it was a girl...until he opened the card and right on front it said "It's a boy!" Inside the card was the printed results and I handed him a cupcake with blue frosting. He was ecstatic, the total opposite of the reaction I had.
In the beginning, I was pretty upset to find out we were having our third boy. I really wanted a girl and had throughly convinced myself that's what we were having. I actually shed a few tears on my way home with the blue cupcake. I was very thankful to be having a healthy baby, but I really wanted to add some pink to our life and had really enjoyed being a girl mom to the few girls we got to foster.
I quickly got over my semi disappointment seeing how excited Kyle was. We had to keep this a secret because we were going to reveal the gender to our boys and family when we visited back "home" in North Alabama. The shock at the reveal party was evident when the blue balloons came out. Everyone thought and was secretly hoping for a girl.
|Our Gender Reveal! It's a boy!!|
|Mine and Kyle's mother when the blue balloons came out!|
In less than three weeks, we will welcome our third son, Oaklyn. I have zero pink items, lots of zoo animal print, and a bedding with airplanes; but I could not be more excited. As I look at the two boys God has blessed us with already, I am over joyed he thought I would be worthy enough to have one more. "Boy Mom" has an awesome ring to it if you ask me. So now, I am going to have three boys, all with way different stories about how the Lord gave them to me.
Michael made me a mom. I may not have brought him home from the hospital or heard his first word, but I will never forget the day he showed up to my home and what it felt like to hear him call me mom for the first time. Michael was up for adoption and after 6 months it was official, I was a mom and he was my first son.
Eli may not have made me a mom but he taught me a lot about a special kind of love, one that fights for their child. We walked the whole foster to adopt road with Eli. We went through visits, meetings, unknown answers, a termination trial, and then finally adoption. We had to fight for Eli's best interest as well as a love he didn't know he needed.
The Lord gave both Michael and Eli to us through adoption, but each with their own unique story. He used each of them to shape and mold Kyle and I into parents and how to love like parents do. Now we prepare for another blessing. A new kind of love, not one that is more but one that is different. We are excited to welcome a baby in less than three weeks and thankful everyday for the Lord's blessings.